Woman Is Called ‘Monstrous’ for Asking for a Bigger Inheritance

A woman has been called “monstrous” for asking for a larger portion of a family inheritance — despite the fact that she is her grandmother’s primary caretaker.

The 32-year-old detailed her experience on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, where she sought advice and input from fellow platform users. In her post, the woman explained that she has been living with her 95-year-old grandmother for the past three years. She said the arrangement has been “mutually beneficial,” as she has been able to live rent-free while her grandmother has had “somebody around to clean the house, take care of the house, cook dinner, and handle medical emergencies.”

However, the situation recently changed dramatically when her grandmother suffered multiple strokes. “She lost her vision completely, and her balance is also no longer great. She cannot walk to the bathroom herself, get on the toilet alone, or shower without assistance,” the woman wrote.

She also shared that her grandmother has been given 12-14 months to live, and her mother — who lives locally —  is expecting her “to take on the entirety of the care or at least the majority of the care while she plans on inheriting everything [from] my grandmother.”

The Redditor said that because of this, she has asked to inherit her deceased aunt’s home in full — which has not yet been sold and is technically supposed to be divided equally among herself, her grandmother and her mother. She went on to say that she would ideally like to rent her aunt’s home out to a tenant in order to help pay for in-home assistance for her grandmother “so that I don’t burn out.”

The woman added that she is not in her grandmother’s will, so her mother will eventually inherit the house that she currently lives in, along with everything inside it. 

However, the OP said that she has been met with “outrage” over her suggestion and that she has been accused of “charging” her mother for taking care of her grandma, adding, “I have been told by all of my mother’s friends who live in the area that I am monstrous and selfish.”

“I wouldn’t ask for anything if my grandmother didn’t have anything. But as […] is I feel like I’m being very reasonable to ask for around the 5th of what my mom is set to inherit,” she concluded.

Reddit users were quick to assure the woman that her request was not unreasonable.

“Demanding an inheritance before someone even dies is generally an a—— move. But in context, you are not obligated to care for your grandma. Caring for a sick person is very hard work and asking for compensation is reasonable,” wrote one person.

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“NTA [not the a——],” wrote another user before adding, “You’re providing full-time care for your grandmother while your mom, who lives five minutes away, barely lifts a finger. Expecting some form of compensation—especially when there’s a hefty inheritance involved—is completely reasonable. If your mom wants to inherit everything but refuses to share the responsibility, that’s on her. You’re not ‘charging’ them; you’re asking for fairness. If they don’t want to compensate you, they can step up and take care of her themselves.”

Other users strongly advised the OP to attempt to set some solid boundaries with her mother.

“Money brings out the worst in people. You need to create boundaries about what care you can and can not provide and tell your mother she needs to be responsible for arranging anything else,” wrote a Redditor.