Lily Allen is subtly supporting one of her former husband David Harbour’s exes.
“I took this picture in early June of 2019. I was living in New York, in a fancy apartment with big windows that looked at another building. I had chosen almost every item in it but it didn’t feel like home,” Alison Sudol wrote via Instagram on Friday, November 14. “I was a kind of sad that drifted in and out of focus. I drifted in and out of focus. It was the tail end of a relationship but I didn’t know it yet.”
Harbour, 50, and Sudol, 40, dated between 2018 to 2019.
“I think I knew that something was wrong, suspected I wasn’t OK, but I was so confused, tangled up in a narrative that wasn’t mine but was so loud I couldn’t hear beyond it. I couldn’t get my thoughts straight,” she added on Friday. “It was abundantly clear I couldn’t change things, so I kept trying to change me. The thing about bullies is that they know how to win. They tie your hands together and convince you you’ve done it to yourself. It happens on the micro level, it happens on the macro.”
Sudol continued, “The world is full of bullies standing on people’s heads proclaiming it’s the only way to get ahead and they do seem to win, at least in the short term. I’ve never known how to deal with bullies. My strategy has been to lie down, to take the arrows out of my back when I’m alone, nurse my wounds quietly. I’ve smiled at my attackers more times than I could count, hoping they’d think me no threat + leave me be. Still, I managed to put an ocean between me and that person.”
While it’s not known if Sudol was referring to Harbour, Allen, 40, “liked” the post. Allen was married to the Stranger Things actor from 2020 to 2024, chronicling their breakup via her new album, West End Girl.
“I made this record in December 2024, and it was a way for me to process what was happening in my life,” Allen told British Vogue last month. “There are things that are on the record that I experienced within my marriage, but that’s not to say that it’s all gospel. It is inspired by what went on in the relationship [and] confusion, sorrow, grief [and] helplessness.”
Harbour has not publicly addressed Allen’s album, only one discussing their separation at all.
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“I’m protective of the people and the reality of my life,” he told GQ in April. “There’s no use in that form of engaging [with rumors] because it’s all based on hysterical hyperbole.”
As for Sudol, she’s been an outspoken advocate for West End Girl. After Allen recently shared a series of album promotional images via Instagram, Sudol replied in the comment section with a trio of fire emojis. The Fantastic Beasts actress has also moved on since her relationship with Harbour.
“I’ve spent the last six years being very careful of who I keep around me. I’ve rebuilt my sense of self, learned how to love + be loved in a healthy, kind relationship,” Sudol, who shares two daughters with partner Tom Cullen, added on Friday. “No arrows in backs. No standing on heads. Just folding laundry together, laughing. Lately, I’ve begun to step back into the wider world, and not surprisingly, bullies of past + present have dragged themselves out of their caves, waggling in my face. I’ve tried lying down, but the thing is, I’ve had children now. I’m not the person I was, I can’t lie down even when I want to.”
Sudol concluded, “Bullies think kind people are weak, but are we? Especially when the person that is kind is the kind of person that can write songs.”
