Woman Told Stepson It Would Be ‘Great Idea’ for Him to Move in with Mom

A woman sparked family drama after she told her 15-year-old stepson that it was a “good idea” for him to move in with his mother full-time.

In a post on Reddit, the woman explained that the teen, who she calls “Ricky,” told the OP and her husband that he “wanted to move in with his mom and drive to our house whenever he wants to visit us or there is a family event here,” she wrote, adding that “he feels he is old enough to manage his own schedule and that he wants one bedroom to sleep in every night.”

After listening to the teen, “My husband turned to me and said ‘what do you think about all this?’ ” the OP explained, adding, “I said I thought it was a great idea. I said for a young man having a steady base of operations was desirable. I said that I hoped we would see Ricky just as much as before, with regular visits.

Her husband however, completely disagreed.

“My husband didn’t ask for my opinion again the rest of the dinner, which ended on a sour note. He asked why Ricky wanted to stay at his mom’s house if he was going to pick a house, and Ricky said it was a matter of lifestyle compatibility, which made my husband angry. After dinner, my husband was upset with me for what I said. He said I should have said that we didn’t want him to live with his mom, that what I said was a rejection. He said that Ricky wanted us to fight for him and prove we want him here and I did the opposite.”

Now the woman is wondering if she was wrong to support her stepson’s wishes.

“I don’t see his perspective at all. I don’t think Ricky was trying to prove a point. I think he’s sick of moving every week! I don’t see how being supportive is a rejection. But maybe I don’t understand the teenage mind. Am I the a——?”

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In the comments, Redditors weighed in, siding mostly with the woman.

“NTA. Ricky presented his point clearly, and his desire to have one consistent place he sleeps every night is totally valid,” wrote one person.

Another shared their perspective as a child of divorced parents.

“I grew up with divorced parents and once I reached my teens, HATED going back and forth like that too. I wanted my own room in one house where I lived full time, not being shuffled back and forth. For me it was living with my dad full time and I saw my mom all the time too because they lived so close (I could literally walk between houses),” they shared. “My relationship with my mom actually got better once I lived with my dad full time. I felt less stress and started doing better in school too. Your husband is way off thinking that Ricky is trying to get you guys to ‘fight’ for him.”

A third Redditor wrote: “It gets to a point where you just want one house, one bedroom that is yours and to be able to fully settle without having to go back and forth. 50/50 no longer works when the kids start to hate it. A teenager should have the choice, not the parent.”